312 Don’t Kick Someone When They Are Down

Okay, so I am not sure how I want to share this with you, and I wasn’t sure if I was going to post this one because it is a serious subject, and I don’t like how serious this blog has become. If you are not interested in these serious posts, please click away but stay tuned as I have been writing a lot this week so more upbeat and topics such as makeup reviews are to come shortly. If you like the more serious posts then grab a cup of tea and get reading.

I don’t know what you think, but I think there is nothing worse than the feeling of no matter what you do, it is never right. No one should ever experience this feeling. Those people pick at everything “you missed a full stop here, you missed a spot, there is a speck of dust here”. It is just a nagging that is not needed. It makes you feel worthless, useless, and just generally lousy for no reason. There are no words to describe a person who would force those types of feelings on another person. I believe they are revolting human beings not worth anyone’s time. What I don’t understand is there is no rhyme or reason to putting someone down no matter what you think.

There is a famous saying “Don’t kick someone while they are down”. I am not sure who said it first, but it is a very good positive saying.

You don’t have to like everyone, you don’t have to become friends with everyone but that is no excuse to insult, belittle and be nasty towards them. For me, it doesn’t matter who you are or where you are from, everyone gets treated the same, to begin with, I am always open to welcoming anyone I meet. I have mentioned before and I stand by it, I treat everyone in my life how they treat me. I am nice to everyone, to begin with; once I know you it is up to you how I treat you. If you want to be treated nicely and with respect, you must give it. If you do not treat me nicely or with respect don’t even think you are going to get any respect from me.

You may think, where has this come from, where did I get the inspiration for this post? I am going to say that sadly it is from my experience. Why do I suddenly feel the need to express how I feel about respect and the treatment of others? Well, if you know me you will be aware that I have recently been trying to overcome these feelings brought upon me but someone I have met. I generally don’t say much, I don’t like confrontation, so I keep to myself, and I tend to stay quiet. As a result, this often leads people to believe they can control me and walk all over me. The other thing I have realised recently is that I want to prove to people that you can just walk over me. I have a voice and although I don’t use it often it is there to be used when needed.

I am writing this, hoping to inspire people to break out of their shells, much like I have. I have a very high tolerance for being treated badly, I allow people to push me to a breaking point and then it is game over. I allow people a certain amount of wiggle room, once it is all used, I just treat them exactly how they treat me. I never used to, I just let everything get to me. I let people control me and I would just fall in line as instructed by anyone. I have reached a point where that doesn’t work for me anymore. I am small, I am young and yes, I am female but as far as I am concerned that means nothing when it comes to how I am treated.

Stand up for yourself, within reason, and make sure you are safe doing so. The people that treat you with disrespect or speak to you like you are worthless get away with it because they think they are invisible, and they have power over you because you aren’t going to do anything about it. Most people don’t do anything because they think they can’t but just tell someone, start informal and if it doesn’t work go higher. Eventually, there will be a breakthrough. Depending on where the behaviour is, there are a lot of things you can do to stop it.

I recommend speaking to the person first or someone of the same level of the friendship of the same life in school or company. Exhaust all avenues and as each one fails or is not successful move up the branch. I would like to add here if it is a friend or a boyfriend; just show them the door because they are not worth it. You shouldn’t have to ask these people to treat you nicely and if you do, they are not worth the time and effort.

I have always accepted a bit of ugly treatment if I have done something wrong, but I also believe in another quote or saying I have seen floating around, possible at my college. It read, “If I am wrong, educate me, do not belittle me”.

A colleague can be difficult. Unfortunately, I have heard countless stories of it happening in the workplace and it is one of the worst feelings in the world to be belittled or made out to look stupid in front of others in a workplace. The same rule applies, if you use the correct avenues, you can bring a stop to it. If you have exhausted all avenues, then it is time to find a better and nicer company to work for.

At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter who it is, how old the person is, where the person is from and what hierarchy that person has. No one has the right to belittle you or make you feel inferior. Someone once told me when you are dealing with someone like that at work, there are two ways to deal with it, let it go over your head and ignore it, or simply leave. I would recommend trying to solve it as someone shouldn’t be able to push you out of a job. I hate to believe this; I don’t think this act should be accepted ever. No one should have to go to work each day and be treated badly, especially not enough to make them feel like they must leave for their health or sanity. I intend to challenge anyone who treats me like this, and I hope you find the confidence and courage to do the same. I used to let it happen and just get on with life, but I learned a while ago now that if you are not happy about something, you need to change it.