234 Something I never Thought Would be…….

Respect, Now, this is a very important conversation to be had. I try not to be too serious on these posts because I am on a mission to try and be a positive person. Now and then, there is a good reason to knock it down a step or two and talk about something significant. I have been thinking about putting my thoughts together regarding this issue for a while, so I thought it is time to go for it.

This is going to be about respect and how we treat other people. I have recently not been very happy about how people are treating others, including how I am being treated, how my friends are being treated etc. I can truly not understand what the kick is about knocking someone down. What do you gain from kicking someone when they are down? Nothing is the answer so why do it? How people are being treated and how people are treating others these days is just unacceptable.

I have very strong opinions when it comes to the treatment of those around you because, without support from those around you, you could end up stuck in the mud. Everyone needs someone at some point in their life to help. I don’t believe in respecting your elders or respecting those in charge, I do believe that respect should be earnt and maintained not just demanded. I am not going to sit here and insult everyone reading by trying to explain otherwise. There are many people that theoretically you should give respect to, for example, parents, grandparents, teachers, tutors, coaches, colleagues, the public, those who have fallen, those who are fighting, and many more, the list will never end. Yes, I agree that these people in general do deserve respect, but not for those reasons. Everyone deserves respect, but only if they give it.

Why does the age of someone suggest how they are treated, why does the role of someone tell you how you should treat them? To me, it doesn’t matter, who they are, what they do, where they come from or why they are standing in front of you. If they would like me to treat them with respect, they first need to return the favour, and they also need to prove they are worthy of my respect.

I am not saying that respect from me is something special, I am saying that I don’t just grant it to just anyway, of course, I will be nice first of but if you prove to be disrespectful in any way you will lose my respect without a question. If you deserve to be respected then I will respect you, and I’d hope you would respect me back, however, if you do not treat me with any respect, I wouldn’t expect any from me if I were you.

I 100% stand by the following statement “treat people how you would like to be treated”. If you are horrible to me, more than likely I won’t give you the time of day, but if you are nice to me then I am likely to bend over backwards and do a flip to help you out.

Sadly, we live in such a corrupt society, yes people have the freedom of speech which is great but that comes with responsibility and consequences. Nothing you say can ever be 100% rectified, you can apologise, and that apology could be accepted but it doesn’t change the fact that you said it. Words cannot truly be forgotten; you can put them behind you, but you are always going to remember how that person treated you.

I mean, have a bad day, shout a little, shout a lot, moan, punch your pillow, scream, throw a book at a wall, do anything you want but there is no need to degrade, belittle, intimidate, or insult people. You can never know how much it could impact someone,

most of the time you are probably excused for having a bad day. Maybe you do it on a jokey basis with a person due to knowing them for a long time but one day you might just say the wrong thing at the wrong time. It could just be the straw that breaks the camel’s back. Physical injury is easy to see, you can hide it, but it is usually visible, emotional injury is invisible and likely not shared until it has complete damage. Seriously, there is no harm in being nice to someone or treating people with respect and kindness. It doesn’t cost a thing not even time to be a nice person, no one is perfect, you are going to slip up and upset someone now and then by accident but that is when you apologise and do something nice for them to make it up. If you are having a bad day, make it known so people expect you to be grouchy and are prepared for your outburst. I do not have any time for people who treat people without respect. If you are a person who doesn’t show anyone respect or think you are too old or too good to give respect I wish you good luck, and I wish that I never meet you.

You could be the most important person in the room but that does not mean you have the right to speak any differently to anyone supporting you while you are at the top. It could be that you don’t care how people treat you or speak to you but that doesn’t give you the right to speak and treat others in the same way. I can almost guarantee you are the first to complain when you don’t get what you want as well.

You may become successful while being malicious and disrespectful but sitting at the top will be lonely for you, I would rather sit at the bottom with friends and family.

The message I would like to come out of this writing today is:

Treat people with respect and kindness, there is no need to do otherwise. There is no need to make someone else’s life a misery just because you’re not happy with yours. Get up and do something about it instead. Take it out on your life not those amazing people around you.