2368 Choosing Me

This week flew by. It was a bit of a weird one for me. It started with a little human I call my nephew going home after staying for a week. He is so funny! The weeks went so well! I took him to Sea Life in London which meant it was his first turn on the tube/underground. He didn’t so well bless him. I was half expecting him to freak out.

Now unfortunately I am going to have to be a little bit negative tonight. I have been experiencing a few things lately and I want to share this experience, in the hopes that it inspires other people to help themselves. I have been … let’s say “witness” to spiteful, malice, gaslighting, petty, patronizing, and condescending behaviour.

Have you ever been in a situation where no matter what it is you do; someone doesn’t like it? I honestly don’t think there is anything more frustrating, demeaning, and off-putting than various people constantly moaning about whatever it is you do. I recently misunderstood instructions. Personally… if someone misunderstood my instructions. It means I didn’t explain it clearly. Would you agree? In my case… it was 100% my fault for the misunderstanding.

Another example I’ve had is… peeling veg. You can use a peeler or a knife. I prefer to use a knife but occasionally I will use a peeler if there is a big surface. But whichever piece of equipment I choose to use… someone will tell me the other is easier. I have used both for most things at this point.

It almost feels like they are telling you that you are wrong just for the fun of it. For me… if the outcome is the same, I do not care how it gets done. The important part is… the task gets completed. If a person wants to stand on their head, eating an apple while chopping a cucumber… if it gets done in a decent amount of time then I am all for it. Do what you gotta do!

If I see someone trying a task and I know a way that I find much quicker or easier I will offer to show them. But I always make sure to tell them, to do it in whatever way feels good to them. It will taste the same no matter how it is cut.

I am 100% open to someone offering an alternative method. But then leave me to choose how I complete the task. Often making someone do a task a different way will make them take longer. I have been told that I was cutting potatoes wrong. Which is a very valid argument. However, the potatoes I was cutting were going to be mashed potatoes. So, their shape did not matter one bit.

It’s just been really irritating me recently. I don’t seem to be able to take a step forward without someone telling me I am doing it wrong. At this rate, I’ll be spelling my own name wrong. With that said… I have decided I am going to put myself first. I usually like to make sure everyone else is sorted and then I will sort myself out. But now I am doing things for myself. If I want something I am making it happen.