1400 A Tip for You, Don’t Trust The First Impression!

Where to start… Everyone has first impressions, it is at school, college, at work, at home, when you walk into a new shop when you visit a new town and in various other scenarios.

My point is you can’t hide from a first impression (but if you know a way, please let me know in the comments below). Recently, my opinion on first impressions has changed. For years now, of course, I have been making my first impressions of the people around me, and about the places I have visited but I have chosen to make myself almost ignore them, instead, I try to give people and places the chance to show me their true selves. Do you know what I mean?

I am not going to date this or name anyone for safety and security reasons. Those who were involved, friends and family will know who and what I am talking about, but the internet doesn’t need to know the finer details. However, the story starts with the fact I had just started a new job, exciting right? I mean who isn’t nervous on the first day of a new job? Everything went well, I got there on time, and I had everything I needed (food, drink, mug for tea etc). Everyone was friendly, saying morning in all the various ways you can. I got such a warm welcome; I frankly couldn’t have faulted them in the welcome.

They all seemed to be so supportive as well, you felt comfortable asking anyone questions, you didn’t feel judged, and it felt like a workplace, not a playground (If you understand what I mean, not much gossiping etc).

I was excited that I pretty much fit straight in with everyone, I was comfortable with most of the people that worked in the office. (I mean, what office doesn’t have at least 1 person who seems too important for you to talk to?). Unfortunately, and sadly, the first impression I had, got destroyed when out of the blue, with no warning I was given a week’s notice.

I suppose being friendly and supportive doesn’t mean they will give you the chance to perfect a brand-new role. Who knew? It did confuse me for a few days and in my opinion, it was a bit premature to decide I wasn’t the right person, especially as I had a total of 3 quite LARGE curve balls thrown at me in approximately 90 days that I worked for them.

Now, I am not stupid, and I am 98% sure this was calculated and mostly planned because the timing just seemed extremely convenient for them. Don’t get me wrong I would love for the company to read this post but that isn’t what this post is about. It just so happened that a post I have been wanting to write for a while about trust and first impressions perfectly fit with this story and I feel now is a good time to tell you.

Anyway, I wanted to write this post, not to call them out, not to shame them (because that makes me just as bad as I refuse to go that low), I wrote it because I got caught in their trap and I wish to help you learn from my mistake. Has anyone else experienced similar?

Let me know in the comments below. What happened to all of us supporting each other?

So, I guess take this as a little word of warning, perhaps a tip or maybe even a bit of advice. Sadly, still in this day in age, there are still some humans that only care about themselves and what benefits them. My message to you, have your friends back, have your sisters back, and have the back of everyone you can because until this human race starts looking after each other we are not going to move forward! You never know when someone is going to make a decision that will impact your life because it suits them. There is about 1% of humans who will have your back on you no matter what, they are the ones to keep hold.